“Healing is different for women and men in that a woman’s core area of woundedness is her fear of being undesirable. After a wound, she may respond in a variety of ways, including the extremes of letting her health deteriorate and not taking care of herself, or the other extreme of being obsessed with beauty and perfection. Men’s core area of concern is that of inadequacy; am I taking care of my spouse and children, am I being a good enough father? Like a failure to forgive, the wounds of guilt and shame make it difficult for God to enter a soul; that’s why breaking down how women can heal from them is so important.”